Sex and Relationship Therapy

Sex is one of the most natural and pleasurable activities that we can enjoy. Sex can give humans both physical and emotional pleasure and can reinforce the bonds between couples. Sex and relationships are naturally interlinked; however difficulties with these two aspects can cause us significant problems both physically and emotionally.

The causes of Sex and Relationship problems can often overlap (i.e. sexual problems can lead to relationship difficulties and vice versa).

Some of the common causes of Sexual and Relationship Difficulties are:

  • Psychological - life stressors, anxiety, depression, mental health issues, substance abuse.
  • Emotional and Relationship problems – lack of communication, unresolved grief, trust issues, jealousy, poor work life balance, external relationships and over-involvement in hobbies and interests.
  • Physical - such as illness (medical or hormonal), medication, surgery, physical trauma.
  • Self – Negative feelings about yourself, issues about sexual orientation, performance anxiety, presence of sexual myths, porn addiction, cybersex and interest in unusual sexual behaviours.

Sexual disorders are usually characterized into the following five areas:

  1. Desire disorders - Lack of sexual interest and incompatibility of interest.
  2. Arousal disorders - Erectile dysfunction in men and inability to feel aroused in women.
  3. Orgasm disorders - premature ejaculation, persistent, delay or absence of orgasm for men. There is also the recurrent and persistent inability for a woman to achieve orgasm. This can either be primary (whereby the woman has never had an orgasm) or secondary (the inability to orgasm occurs after a trauma or life event). Overall this is known as Female Orgasmic Disorder.
  4. Pain disorders - some of the common ones are painful intercourse (dyspareunia) and the involuntary clenching of the vaginal muscles to prevent intercourse (vaginismus).
  5. Unusual sexual behaviours – these include Fetishism, Transvestism, Voyeurism, Exhibitionism and Sadomasochism.

At Bo Mills Associates, we are qualified and trained to diagnose, formulate and treat any of the above problems.